Below are some tips to start caring for yourself so you can care for the world again.
1. Look to build relationships with a strong foundation of trust. Let the toxic people, places, and things go. If it does not fill you with peace, it is not for you.
2. Genuinely look to understand others before demanding they understand you. Ask questions, inquire, and be curious. Avoid judgment and be open to them and how they are feeling. You’ll be surprised to learn they are just as afraid as you are. Start with the common ground and work from there.
3. Have open lines of communication. Never assume; always ask. If someone does something that confuses you, ask them what their reasoning is. Always open dialogue before you open up an attack against someone.
4. Be ready for tough, vulnerable conversations. ‘Know Thyself’ – the more you know who you are, what you need, and your own boundaries, the more you can teach others to do the same for themselves.
5. Offer encouragement and appreciation. Even when you feel low, do this. You’ll be surprised at how it will lift your mood as well. When you give a situation what it is lacking, you lead the way to elevate that situation.
6. LOVE. YOURSELF. It is astounding how much of a difference this can make to the rest of the world. You cannot give from an empty vessel, so ensure that vessel is full. Give love to yourself every day, every minute, every second. If it feels awkward, that is your sign to give yourself more love. This is not rocket science, but it has been programmed out of us all. Remember what you already know deep inside. Love who you are. Start from within.
7. Lead from within. When you love yourself, you can always trust yourself. Lead from within and trust your intuition, your internal guidance, and your ability to see the truth. If you are confident and strong in your ability to trust yourself, you will pass that confidence on to others. You will create a safe place for others to be who they are in your presence.
8. Practice self-awareness daily. This means constantly questioning yourself and looking at your own motivations. Not with judgment but with curiosity and observation. Learning about yourself is not about shaming yourself. It is about understanding who you are and what you need. It allows you to understand your feelings and what is informing them. Are you really in the moment? Or are you projecting old hurts and pains onto another innocent person? Are you angry at someone, or are you more in fear? Learn the subtle differences and ‘Know Thyself’ first and foremost. NEVER shame yourself. Love Yourself. This is a process, and it can be painful, but it is always exceedingly rewarding.